09: Healing After a Tragic Loss with Crystal Webster

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What do we do when the unthinkable happens? Everyone deals with grief in their own way, but one of the most difficult parts of the grief process is healing after the tragic loss. Today’s story is one filled with grief, but also hope and healing. My guest today is Crystal Webster from Sharing Solace. She got some unthinkable news at 32 weeks pregnant that her child would not survive. What is beautiful about Crystal’s story is that she is always looking for silver linings and is not shy about sharing her struggles. 

If you are experiencing grief, this story will offer up comfort and hope for you. Crystal is incredibly honest about her continuous journey to healing. To this day, the daughter Crystal lost is her only daughter and yet she lives her life with hope and compassion towards others that is truly inspiring. At the end of the show, Crystal shares how her new passion project, Sharing Solace, will be able to help others for years to come. 

Grief is grief. If it’s the worst thing that’s happened to you, then it’s the worst pain you know.
— Crystal Webster


Show Highlights:

  • Crystal shares her experiences living abroad, and then the decision to have a family. 
  • The 32-week sonogram that changed everything. 
  • How Crystal and her husband processed in the two weeks before her daughter was delivered and passed away. 
  • Relying on family while grieving and in daily life following loss
  • How Crystal decided to do the tests to determine if the birth defect was a fluke or a genetic disorder. 
  • Dealing with the rollercoaster of emotions when undergoing IVF. 
  • Healing through connections with other people. 
  • Finding ways to honor her daughter's legacy 

Crystal's Favorites:

  • Self-help audio books
  • The Universe Has Your Back
  • You Are a Badass

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Crystal knows all too well how life can go from cloud nine to sub-basement in the blink of an eye. After marrying her soul mate and spending 2 years living abroad, she and her husband returned home to start their family – and instantly became pregnant. Less than a week later her beloved aunt and uncle were tragically killed. Crystal fell into a deep depression but was also excited to welcome a new life into the world and bring some much-needed light into her family. At 32 weeks, during a routine ultrasound, she heard the words that should never have to be uttered, “Please stay here – I need to speak with the doctor.” Her Madelyn Elizabeth was born two weeks later on May 19th, 2010 and died the following day in her arms. Tests confirmed that Crystal had a genetic chromosomal condition that passed to Madelyn causing her to be unable to survive on her own – and would also be passed to any of Madelyn’s siblings. Crystal and her husband thought, maybe, IVF could correct the condition. Three years and three rounds of intense IFV later and Madelyn is still destined to be an only child. Madelyn’s love and legacy live on through the mission of Sharing Solace, a community of grievers for grievers. Crystal knows she is guided by her angel to help others grieve in a meaningful way and to help friends and family support the griever’s journey.


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